By Angel Apurillo
Just like with my daughter, Cielo. As a toddler, she is exploring and understanding how life is. And she still don't know the difference between right and wrong. When she does something wrong, she's so afraid to even talk to us.
And this is not we want as parents. We don't want to instill to them that we are dictators
Normally, parents will get angry if their child did something wrong.
What we need is to accept their apology immediately, Just like when they spill their drink, wet the bed and other things she did wrong. When she says she's sorry, we accept it immediately and talk to her,
As time goes and by doing this method, she is becoming:
Kapish!
“Never forget the nine most important words of any family-Kids have the tendency to be afraid to us parents when they did something wrong. Of course we are bigger and stronger than them. Just like us when we were at their age, we were so afraid to not let our parents know that we did something that they will get them mad and angry at us.
I love you.You are beautiful.Please forgive me.”
- H. Jackson Brown Jr.
Just like with my daughter, Cielo. As a toddler, she is exploring and understanding how life is. And she still don't know the difference between right and wrong. When she does something wrong, she's so afraid to even talk to us.
And this is not we want as parents. We don't want to instill to them that we are dictators
Normally, parents will get angry if their child did something wrong.
What we need is to accept their apology immediately, Just like when they spill their drink, wet the bed and other things she did wrong. When she says she's sorry, we accept it immediately and talk to her,
As time goes and by doing this method, she is becoming:
- More open. Cielo is the first one to tell us that she did something that will make us angry. So even though she knows that we will get mad, she opened herself and asked an apology. We acknowledge it and will talk to her about that that was wrong and ask her commitment that she will not do it again.
- They don't have to keep secrets. When they learn to open up, secrets will be lessen. And she can express herself to us. When secrets are kept, there will be chance of neglect and avoidance from the child. As early as possible, don't let your kid keep secrets from you.
- Its easy to talk to them. When you have the kid's full trust, she will adore you more. And she will be easy to talk to. Like best friends do.
Kapish!